Jessica Sitomer
Seminars and Coaching for the Entertainment Industry
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A Smokin' Hot Networking Tip

In Backdraft Two Chicago firefighter brothers who don't get along have to work together while a dangerous arsonist is on the loose. In the entertainment industry, you don’t always get to choose with whom you work, but, the more people you know, the more likely you are to work with likeminded people!

I once walked into a room where I was about to give a seminar on networking and a cheerful looking man walked up to me and handed me his business card.  I took it, looked at him, and waited.  He said, “I just wanted you to have that before the business card barrage at the end.” I thanked him, and asked if it was okay if I used him as an example during my talk.  He lit up and nodded that it was okay.

Perhaps he thought his was a smart strategy, and I wanted to acknowledge him… but you know I wouldn’t be writing about it if that were the case.  While he did stand out by avoiding the fire-hosing of cards I “would have” received at the end of my talk (had I not made a gentle example of him), he still missed the “When & Why” you give a business card.

Want to know a human need you can tap into to take the pressure off of networking?  Add a comment



Inventing Your Career

Tony Stark wasn’t bitten by a spider, he didn’t come from another planet, he was not born a mutant... Tony is an inventor. A Super Hero, yes, because he created that for himself.

In 2010, I was stuck. If you haven’t heard my story, you should check out my Jess Gets Reel videos on YouTube. I had goals; to make money as an actress, to write, to travel, to spend time with my family, to try things I’d never done before on my “Bucket List,” and to change peoples’ lives through my entrepreneurial ventures (which at the time was just Greenlight).

That’s an awful lot to accomplish unless you’re a Super Hero and your power is multiplicity (the power I’d pick if I had a choice.. I would love to be in 10 places at once). So, I had to “invent” my life the way Tony invented Ironman.

In the last 2 years, I’ve made more money and been busier as an actress than I have in my entire career combined, I am writing the second installment of a fiction book series that I started in 2011, and have 3 treatments for screenplays, I’ve traveled to more than 18 cities (a couple numerous times), I’ve spent quality time with family, friends, and crossed some things off my bucket list. And through it all, I continue to change lives through 3 businesses I now own.

I share this with you because something shifted in me that caused me to invent the life I wanted to live, and YOU can do it to. Here’s how: Add a comment


While You Were Sleeping

To Work or Not to Work in the Face of Tragedy

In While You Were Sleeping, Sandra Bullock’s Character, Lucy, saves Peter’s life and gets pulled into the warmth of his family due to some lack of communication.  In this romantic comedy, Peter spends most of the movie in a coma, with his family and Lucy, close by.

I've spent my summer on the lake with my friends.  On Labor Day, my friends’ son was in a near fatal accident.  He’s now home, and on the fast track to a full recovery.  But when it happened, the only similarity to a “romantic comedy” was that friends and family were all around.  

I watched a father helplessly hold his son in his arms, not knowing if he would survive. I listened as a mother wailed and screamed.  I felt the fierce protective love of a big brother, who wouldn’t leave his bedside and watched over his monitors all night.  I experienced the love of so many family members and friends who came to the hospital to pray for him and comfort his parents.

Before he even went in for surgery, I had two client calls, a training call I was giving, and the day after his surgery I had to give a webinar. Now granted, I am not his immediate family, but my heart was still breaking to see him in pain and watch his parents practically helpless.  I was praying with everything I had.  I was emotional, scared, staying strong for everyone so they could break down, and… I had to work.  

Most people with regular 9-5 jobs, can take off a week of work in the wake of a tragedy, but in our industry, we don’t always have that flexibility.  People are counting on us, money is being spent on us, and fear of someone else replacing us, makes these times especially challenging for entertainment professionals.

I remember when Sandra Bullock’s mother passed away on the day of her premiere for 28 Days.  My heart was breaking for her as the tabloid news made her "will she or will she not attend her own premiere" the top story for hours on end.  She did not attend the premiere, and I was glad to see she didn’t.

We are constantly faced with tough choices in our industry and saying yes or no to work, or an important commitment can be extremely stressful, so here are some tips that I hope help:
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